Imagine getting a dream opportunity in another country and not having to worry about language or climate.
So what actually happens when you leave everything familiar behind?
Here are some things no one told me about the emotional side of immigration…
🌿 Practical Expat Tips to Navigate the Emotional Whirlwind of Moving Abroad
- Research
- The final farewell
- Landing on the other side
- Grocery list
- Waking up that first morning of your new life
- Set routines
- Stand in Faith, not Fear
I was one of those who’d never left my home country before, and to be honest, I hate traveling. So, when I started sharing with my friends that we were immigrating from South Africa to the Cayman Islands, everyone was shocked.
Let me share some tips I learnt the hard way with our first immigration.
Tip #1 – Research
Like most people, I started researching what island life abroad would be like and whether we could live there long-term. But I don’t think any amount of research could have prepared us for what lay ahead emotionally.
Now, after the fact and in preparation for this blog, I’ve been looking into what happens emotionally when you leave your home country, and I’m shocked to see how many other articles echo what we went through. I never wanted to read someone else’s experience at the time, because I didn’t want it to influence mine.
My honest advice would be to not only research the actual place you’re immigrating to, but also the emotions you will experience in the first days, weeks and months.
Tip #2 – The Final Farewell
In the time leading up to your departure, you can almost feel paralyzed. Many people either leave their “old” lives behind in a mess, or they can’t take everything they planned. They end up removing items from their bags at the airport.
The same was true for us. No matter how hard I tried to plan every move and think through every scenario, it was just a fumble out the door by the end of it. That emotional overwhelm during relocation is real. So, prepare emotionally for what landing on the other side might bring, it’s more than just unpacking boxes.
Tip #3 – Landing on the Other Side
The feeling of “strange” didn’t set in until a day or two later. I planned so carefully and was so sure I’d covered all my bases, up until the point we arrived at our new home.
I never thought to carefully plan our first few days in a new house, in a new country, with no car and blazing heat of summer on a Caribbean island. I didn’t plan for toilet paper, or real food. We had a work colleague buy us coffee, milk, bread, mince, and eggs. No salt, no butter, nothing else. And the quantities we received were very small.
(This is the kind of small oversight that happens often during international relocation.) So you can bet that I was very well prepared when we did it again a few months later.
Tip #4 – Grocery List
People! I cannot emphasize this enough. I had a grocery list set up when we moved from the Cayman Islands to Dubai and it worked like a dream.
One would think you’d automatically know what to buy when you land on the other side, but no. I promise you, your brain freezes. My sister, who travels regularly for extended periods, confirmed that it happens to her as well, so I’m not the only one.
The shops looked different. The products looked different. And that first shop isn’t just a top-up, it’s a complete shop, from scratch! So, plan a menu of very simple things for the first 3 or 4 days, and know exactly what you’ll need for those meals. From the butter in the pan to the dishcloth to wipe the plate, if that’s what you need to do.
Arrange this shopping trip for the day you land or early the next morning, if possible, and double-check that you have the necessary cleaning supplies for a few days.
Having that list ready truly calmed me when I felt overwhelmed those first few days. (This is one of the most overlooked expat tips for settling into a new home.)
Tip #5 – Waking Up That First Morning of Your New Life
I was adamant about bringing a few comfort items for Andrew and me, and it was a great choice for us. We both enjoy routine and feeling secure at home, so I knew that surrounding ourselves with a few familiar items was key.
I brought our favourite pillows, our own set of bath towels, and a bath mat to set up the bathroom. In the kitchen, I packed our favourite mugs and the flasks we use daily for work. It was such a comfort to have those small reminders of home. Setting us up to get back into a normal routine was pivotal.
Tip #6 – Set Routines
Because of the overwhelm we experienced those final weeks in South Africa. We abandoned our trusted routines. When we landed in the Cayman Islands, we really struggled to get them back. We also struggled to settle because we were so displaced from our normal rhythm.
If I compare that time to when we landed in Dubai, where we kept a strong morning and evening routine, things just flowed much more smoothly.
We felt at home in Dubai a lot quicker because we woke up and did what was familiar to us. Even though it looks slightly different now than it did in South Africa or the Cayman Islands, it doesn’t matter.
What matters most is that the routine we kept helped us feel grounded during a time of emotional transition.
Even though we kept our Faith strong during this time and Trusted that everything will work out, we were still uncertain at times.
Tip #7 – Stand in Faith, Not Fear
I want to encourage you. Don’t just Google immigration logistics, search for real stories about the emotional side of moving abroad. This is when you have to stand in faith. If you prayed to God and asked Him whether it was His will for your future to immigrate (“Your will, be done”), then you have to believe that the emotions you’re feeling will pass, and they will.
You will come out stronger on the other side. Trust your faith and embrace the journey.
In the end, it will be a powerful learning experience, and no adventure is ever wasted.
(Faith-based immigration advice doesn’t always show up in checklists, but for us, it was the foundation.)
Here’s to finding calm in the chaos. Until next time,
ChanDrew ❤️
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